All of the sudden your mood changes. This is not enough! Why can't your guy provide things like that? Is it fair? Love can feel way better than this! Why can't you just have it all? Now you started questioning love and the quality of relationship you are in. The person you are with. You are getting bitter and angry. "I mean,if he really loved me,he would try better.." No?
Ok if you are sure you want a sugar daddy,this is not for you (no,no ,I can never judge you,we all gave "sugar daddy" a thought,at least for a minute lol).
But if we both agreed that we are talking on love-oriented relationship,where goal is to build,create,love,care and support each other,then baby girl,slow down.
Yes,we all want a man that will take our breath away with an exotic and fancy surprises.
But what's exactly the meaning of "expensive"?
People use money to buy things. To buy people sometimes as well.
Took me time to understand some few things and Im here,sharing my final opinion with you. My husband and I eventually started doing better,we experienced amazing growth in our careers,and we are now capable of affording bigger and better things than we used to,yes,but don't get it twisted- I don't think Love goes with "expensive". Love rather goes,hand to hand with Priceless.
What is priceless?
An effort someone puts in to make you smile. A sacrifice man will have to deal with to provide the best he can for you. The fact you are clearly a priority to someone's life. The fact he is willing to give you 50 and 50 is all he got in his pocket.
What of expensive things? Big cars? Branded clothes and exotic trips?
Why not?
As a goal,yes.
Even if I wish to share my excitement with y'all by sharing a photo or two on social media.
But it's still not a proof of love though,but it is a proof of how far you two have gone and how much you have built.Together,as a team,Thanks to that magical Love and dedication,support,encouragement and understanding it brought into your lives.
Thank you for this Sonia, you're spot on as usual! I keep telling ladies that it's the thought that counts always. If a man has 20 million naira in his account and gets you a gift worth 500k, he may not love you as much as the guy with 100k who gets you a gift of say 50k, it is all relative. I'm a sucker for the "little things" because they usually require the most thought. I hope more ladies read your blog,it will save them a lot of heart ache and unnecessary fretting. Well said and well done dear
ReplyDeleteThanks dear! Feel free and share it . Thanks for love
DeleteMaam Sonia u have spoken well buh what is he doesn't give u at all... Is it right to stay put in such rel cos I hear pple say he doesn't have to give u.. If he gives fine if he doesn't fine.. Sme men until u ask I knw dey wount do n some even wen u ask dey still would not do.. do u keep blind eyes to such just becos u r trying to build a rel cos pple will say patience buh how long can a person be patient... I will appreciate if u respond to ma comment maam.
ReplyDeleteWell,not everyone deserves "ride or die". On you is to understand the difference between that one man who is worth it and the rest of the world. On you is to recognize potential in him. To make sure that he is willing to work hard. Understand his vision and feel his passion towards it filled with faith and positive attitude. Trust me ,such a man can never be a poor man. Buf on the other hand,you must always feel his love and care. support man that makes you his unconditional priority. even thou hes not where he wants to be yet (which is ok especially when it comes to a young man) he must always try and make the best out of what he has when it comes to his woman. In return you give him hope,encouragement,love and support and y'all winning sooner or later
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ReplyDeleteFirst time here ma. Pls I want to knw what abot a man (married) that is OK even though he is not too rich but confortable, depend on salary alone but xtreamly stingy? What can u advice the wife bcos am really loosing it and thinking of leaving the marriage. Please will appreciate if u respond. Thanks ma.
ReplyDeleteStinginess is a state of mind my dear,it has nothing to do with numbers in the person's bank account. It's part of someone's nature,whether he got 1$ or 1 million $. I,personally,can't deal with stingy people because I am naturally generous and I deeply believe in life in abundance. But some people are just born that way and there is not much we can do to change it. You can always try to talk to your partner (not argue or attack) and try and calmly explain how his behavior makes you feel . Try to talk to him like a friend to friend and your approach is very important because you don't want to fight,you want to make him understand u and your points of view. If there is love,there must be understanding and compromise. Try and get there but don't forget that your happiness should always be a priority! Happy new year
DeleteThank u so much for the response maam Sonia n happy new year to u and your family... The thing is I am seeing this guy, I have knwn him since 2010 buh we recently started dating like in Oct last year, buh since 2010 till date that I have knwn him he hasn't really supported me financially other than giving me transport fare, although he takes me out on date and I haven't actually asked him for née assistance until we started dating recently wch he didn't acknowledge that is my request. Wen I made mention of it again he's words to me was that hummmmmmm.... Babes be guided...he's actually a young guy that has a job buh trying to start up he's life if u understand what I mean, like tring to get an accommodation etc etc buh my tot I dnt think it's a reason not to give at all but I might be wrong... Now my question is paradeventure I end up marrying this man do u think k he wld give becos the bible says he that is faithful in little will be faithful in much n my fears are If he can't give me now how am I sure he will give if we end up been a couple.... Pls maam I await ur response... Thanks
ReplyDeleteYou have to recognize the type of care your parents have for you in your potential life partner.With that kind of care and love,your partner is always going to try his best and help you out and got your back,not only when it comes to financial issues,but he will be there for you when you go through any kind of emotional,mental or spiritual challenges. That means he will genuinely care about you and how you feel and he will always consider,with his actions,what is the best for you and in your best interest,and you shall feel the same towards him. Otherwise,the Union between two people won't make much sense and without it I'd rather stay alone. Happy new year
DeleteOK maam, I sincerely appreciate ur prompt response.... Thank u so much
DeletePure wisdom right there. Thank u for this piece. Hope most women will read this and break away from social media hype.
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome and thank you for reading ! Xx
DeleteI love u sonia.u are truly an inspiration. Beauty and brains u got it all. #blessings
ReplyDeleteThanks dear xoxo
DeleteSonia you re the best. May God increase your wisdom.
ReplyDeleteSonia you re the best. May God increase your wisdom.
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