So how come he doesn't seem to be exited about having you as his lady?
You try so hard to do everything "to the book" and you can't seem to understand what are you doing wrong?
Why you can't have a fulfilled relationship with your man where he appreciates your efforts and everything you add into his life?
Since we were little girls we were taught that "good woman" must not put herself first. That our purpose is to take care of everything and everyone else before ourselves.
That is why ,through generations women face exactly the same frustrations in relationships,because no one ever told them that in order to have people around you happy ,you need to be happy with yourself first.
Even when you prepare him the most delicious meal he would prefer to eat outside if you are all the time angry,frustrated,over sensitive,passive and negative.
Believe it or not,the most precious thing we can give out to people around us is our VIBE.
That vibrant,contagious positive,energy and that undeniable sex-appeal that comes out of self confidence and self love.
And for that my dear,you need to do you first.
Self love is not an empty word,it requires loving actions as well. Effort.
If you don't feel good about yourself ,stop making excuses and work on it. If you can't change it,then learn how to make a peace with it.
Women can sit,eat,cry about their weight and complain about girls exposing their bikini bodies on social media . Haba.
Once you are not feeling good in your own skin,you won't feel good about the world around you and you will find reasons for negativity in everything and anything. Then meanness becomes a form of self defense and consolation.
Imagine a frequency of such attitude. No normal human being would want to be around you.
Pay attention on yourself.If you notice you are being petty,moody and mean-it's a sign that you should definitely change something about yourself and your lifestyle,because it's not others you have a problem with.
And by change,I don't mean fixing your hair,buying a waist trainer or getting a help from a professional make up artist once in a while.No.
I mean things that will make you fall in love with yourself bare naked. Do things that are will help you keep your spirit negativity free. That will help you win good mood daily. Distract your mind from toxic thoughts about people,situations and yourself.
Explore your potentials,stop letting them rot .Start working out. Dance classes. Yoga. Something that
will help you renew your mind,body and soul. Remember your secret passion. Embrace it,work on it. Read. Expand your knowledge. Feed yourself with informations that will make your heart smile,not with ones that upsets you. Meditate. Try and making home made organic face masks,light a candle,drink a glass of wine : your private spa moment if you can't afford professional ones. Eat right. Eat healthy. Drink water.Lots of water.When you eat heavy,fried food you become even more lazy and angry. Jealous and insecure. Guilty. Anxious.
You can't tell me that a good woman is one who abounded herself.
The way your man sees you is just a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself.
You think that good woman means a good housewife. A servant. A cook. Not really.
Your purpose as someone's partner is way deeper and it's to inspire them and help them get the best out of themselves and in order to be capable of doing such you need to work on getting the best out of yourself first.
This is 21st century and there is nothing appealing about desperate,unhappy,unfulfilled housewife.
Quit with excuses and find a way to make time for yourself.
Selfish is to request from someone to see in you what you can't see yourself ,not putting yourself as your own priority.
You can't pour from an empty cup.
Work on being the energy you want to receive.