Wednesday 21 October 2015

I just want to marry a rich guy!


When I was younger I was completely convinced that solution to pretty much all life problems is to marry rich. Seemed like a very easy way to get a  life of your dreams. I mean,why would you suffer?

Of course,you want a good life for yourself. You want comfort. Even luxury. And that is very ok. No,it's not a crime.Who ever gives you a moral lessons about how wrong this is,person is not being real. I totally understand you. 

Being a young,beautiful girl in the world where everybody wants to "change your life",spend,buy,spoil etc means a world full of temptations. "I mean,this could be an opportunity of my life" you think. Ticket to a life you always wished for. You will finally live like a Queen you are. You will get it and you will get it now. You can't possibly settle for anything less. See how beautiful you are!
Familiar?
But what's next?

Have you ever bothered..What will happen when he finally wins you?
Will he still be busy trying to impress you?
Or...? Or things might change. You are already his very own property. Challenge is over,he won. 

Expensive gifts,surprises,exotic trips..oh he used to be so generous,what is happening?

The truth is,calculation went wrong..somewhere..somehow.
If someone is using only 1% of what he have to impress you/buy you/control you ,what does it tells you about efforts he is putting in to please you?If he had to sacrifice anything for that sake would he? Are you on his priority list like that? Doesn't matter how generous he seems,and how exotic these trips are and how powerful your new car looks like,we have to agree-it's just a tiny little change comparing to what he really have.1 to 10% maximum.
I hear you saying "so what"? Well..
Material things give illusion of happiness. Happened to me so many times - that moment I got something I was "dying for" after few days I totally lost interest in it. Them new expansive shoes,that car,a complete lifestyle. Just some moments after you get it,it doesn't really mean a thing anymore. So if material pleasure is the foundation of your relationship with another person,and If he puts 1% of himself in everything he does for you (no matter how big it seems at the moment)then what will happen when life "hits" you? 

Will this kind of a man be there for you if you get sick? Will he hold your hand when you realize you just lost your parent? Will he be there with his heart and soul or with that 1% of himself he been offering you ever since? 
When your child starts giving you headaches,when you lose something or someone important to you,when loneliness and helplessness kicks in... Who will hold you tight?
Will he be capable of seeing your beauty and wisdom that comes out as you are aging? Appreciate your power as a woman?
Will he value and cherish your amazing unique nature? 
Don't put yourself in the situation where you have to compromise and trade something that is a purpose of our existence as humans for a permanent material pleasure. Why? Not because it's "morally wrong " but simply because ,at the end of the day,you won't feel happy. From "all I ever wanted " to a huge bedroom filled with emptiness,pain,regrets and bunch of branded shoes. 

Will you ever be "allowed" to be you? To let your true nature out? Potentials,ideas,opinions? Some men use their wealth as a weapon of control,way to prove their superiority and fix their self esteem issues. That is why don't ever put yourself  in the situation where you don't have a choice left. Don't let anyone turn you into a property. Accessories. Don't turn into a box somebody will use to dispose their complexes and insecurities. Don't let nobody own you.

It's not about "right/wrong". You simply won't ever be truly happy at the end of a day. 
Trust me,I know.

6 comments:

  1. I tell my girlfriends this all the time. Until you experience it, you will see the trappings of wealth as the ultimate goal. I say grow rich with a man you know loves you. The real imperfect you. Instant lifestyle has a price. Loneliness, selfishness, control is a big part of it.

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  2. I love you Sonia. Your blog is always refreshing. Very unique, believe me.

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  3. Yoruba will say....ORO means words...nice one

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  4. Yoruba will say....ORO means words...nice one

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  5. Dis one really got me. Thanks ma'am, ur a blessing to Nigeria

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  6. Dis one really got me. Thanks ma'am, ur a blessing to Nigeria

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