Before you work on setting yourself free,you will need to know how to recognize emotional manipulators :
1) They appear to be helpful
Manipulative people love nothing more than to be helpful. It seems counterintuitive but it’s the truth. They love to help you in your time of need! They like to do nice things. And once they have, they feel like you owe them and they’ll absolutely call in a favor, even if it’s something you don’t want to do, and cite the fact that they did that one nice thing for you that one time.
2) They turn what you say against you
One of the oldest tricks in the book. When someone is trying to manipulate you, they may take what you said out of context or hold onto your words and turn them against you later. This can cause you to feel guilty. Don’t let it.
3) They talk behind your back than deny it
Manipulators sew mistrust among people by doing one thing and then saying another. They’ll talk about you behind your back, and when you find out, they’ll deny it or pin it on someone else, causing you to direct your ire elsewhere.
4) They tend not to be direct
Manipulators are incredibly passive-aggressive and use that kind of behavior to guilt you. When you’re feeling guilty, you’re more likely to do things for them. That’s the end goal right there – you doing things for them.
5) They make their lives sound so difficult
“You think you had a rough day? Listen to what happened to me.” Manipulators will make their lives out to seem so much harder than yours every time. They diminish your own feelings and prop themselves up as the ever embattled friend. This makes you feel guilty, and that’s what they want.
6) They sap your energy
At the end of the day, they’re just exhausting to be around. And who wants a friend like that?
Source: dailyvibes.org
wonderful, very correct, well done dear
ReplyDeleteU nailed it Sonia, u just said with I experience wt ma ex, he always made me feel guilty for he's mistakes, instead of owing up to he's mistakes he wld rada Turn d table ard n make me feel bad until I tuk the bold step n walk out of the rel. U nailed it dear.... I called dem emotional abusers
ReplyDeleteWhenever i find my self involved with such people be it friends/family/in-laws i usually disconnect myself from them compelety and give them space to continue with their manipulative dramatical acts somewhere else or with someone else.I mean at the end of the day the last thing i need is unnecessary drama around me.All i need is peace and i will disconnect myself from anyone or anything that is trying to bring me down directly or indirectly.
ReplyDeleteCheers!