Friday, 23 December 2016

How To Attract An Ideal Partner & A Healthy Relationship

Are you tired of attracting the wrongest kind of the people into your life?
You don't even know what are you doing wrong?

Let this be your guide for 2017 :

1) "All the men/women are the same"
This is the attitude that will help you attract exactly the same. In life we truly get nothing more and nothing less then what we settle for. If your mind truly believes that there are no good,honest,loyal,carrying and loving people out there,you will get what you believe is "available". Life always gives us situations that matches with our beliefs. No doubt.
If you want to attract something good you must feel good and positive about it. Let thoughts about your future romance bring you excitement not headache!

2) Leave your past in the PAST!
You can't let bad experiences stop you from enjoying the future that could be so beautiful and bright ! No matter how badly you have been  hurt and disappointed,you have to make a peace with it. It probably happened for a reason and the best is yet to come. Stop living in there. Stop stressing over things u you can't change.Secondly,don't get it twisted:our past experiences do not teach us a lesson about others (men/women in general). It helps us get to know ourselves better! These experiences helps us understand what we truly want and what we don't want. And that is what is helping us grow. So be grateful for everything you have been through.
If you want to be able to enjoy and recognize good things and amazing people/person God planned for you,you better let go of fears and frustrations you carry like a heavy,dusty old load from your past. Set yourself free.

3) You are in charge of your happiness!
Stop being unhappy because you are single and learn how to be happy all by yourself. The biggest illusion of all is a belief that someone will enter your life and all your problems will vanish. The truth is,if you don't learn how to feel good all by yourself,you will never ever be able to be happy with anyone else! You will always feel like something is missing and you will insist that it's because your partner is not giving you enough and you will always feel unfulfilled,incomplete and never satisfied which will affect the quality of your relationship,even in case you have the most loving and carrying person by your side. It's simple: You can't give what you don't have. You are the only person in this whole wide world who can grant yourself a peace of mind and a happiness. Again,when you learn how to feel happy and fulfilled all by yourself,you will never accept to be unhappy with another human being.

4) What about  relationship with yourself?
You really think that the only relationship that deserves your efforts and time  is the one you want to build with another human being? You are so sad because you are single ,you feel alone and lonely but guess what? You have YOU! Enjoy your single days ,please yourself in every possible way.Why don't you start treating yourself with love and respect before you expect anyone else to do so? Show other people the way you need to be treated  by giving them  an example and they will follow. You matter. You are worthy. You deserve to be treated like the most special person in the world. You are a blessing. So act accordingly! Pamper yourself. Set your standards high. You can't expect others to do for you what you can't do for yourself. 

5) Be honest!
You don't need to pretend. You don't need to be a Mother Teresa to be loved.  You don't have to sugarcoat your life story to meet up with someone's moral standards or life philosophy.You are good enough the way you are. Mistakes? Embarrassings? Common! Who was not there?Make peace with it and with your past. That's what made you!You have to understand that you have nothing to prove. Stop living in fear of being judged or misunderstood because who ends up feeling that way about you definitely is not for you. You don't have to impress anyone or show them that you are a great catch. You should know what defines you,and that's not your mistakes. However,you will only know the true love if you are transparent. That's how you will know that your partners loves you simply for who you are ,not for an idea of you he has in his head. 

6) What you give is what you get!
You want a partner who is successful,honest,loyal,romantic..But can you be all that?The best way to get what you want in life  is to be that and live according to it.. Life is truly  a one big mirror. So work on yourself. People around you are reflection of who you are. 

7)Know your damn worth!
Why do people take you for granted? Why do people mistreat you? Blackmail you and manipulate you emotionally? Why do you stay even when it hurts?Because you don't know your worth!When you feel like your partner is doing you a favor by being with you(because you are not aware of how powerful your addition into someone's life is) you hold on to him/her desperately,despite things that you clearly know are wrong. And that's how you become a weak link. Trust me,your partner can give importance only if you confidently (even bit arrogantly) know how much of a blessing you are. You need to know "what you bring to the table". You must understand why are you so irreplaceable. So unique and special. Self love,self respect,self confidence is what makes a human being so damn irresistible. The way you see yourself is the picture of you others will have.


  1. Sonia dear D truth is I have never really visited this blog but I go through some of your instagram captions ND d funny thing is I direct friends to ur page and blog and today I decided to visit it and guess wat it's now my new favorite site... I learnt a lot trust me am not flattering you and I related to so many lessons keep up d good work and God bless you but I have a question or rather a request... Could you write about choosing a life partner because of looks nd financial status? I would really love it thanks..

  2. You're just too much. All your posts are always on point. Thank you for sharing.
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  3. This is my first time here. I must say you really are an inspiration. A blog like non other. Well done Mrs Ogbonna