8 HABITS OF MISERABLE AND FAILED LIFE

Life happens. Different situations pop up and that's how it is to every single one of us.

When things are not going our way we are surely unhappy,frustrated,worried,maybe even to the point we enter depression.

Somehow,we were taught to be controlled by circumstances we find ourselves in to the point we don't  even consider possibility  of approaching the same situation from a different angle,poin of view or with a different attitude towards it . 

What makes us feel bad is not an external factor or something that happens without our control or approval. It's not a circumstance that trigs the negative emotion. It's the way we see it,understand it and a meaning we attatch to it. 

True reasons of our unhappiness lays somewhere here :

1) YOU COMPETE 

Comperism and competitive attitude opens great door for ENVY and JEALOUSY. That competitive attitude makes you see others as a threat and makes you feel like they are TAKING SOMETHING AWAY FROM YOU by them doing good. The truth is ,it opens space for our fears to manifest and that brings us terrible tension and pressure that can only DISTRACT your  FOCUS from your goals and bring bad,unpleasant feelings into your heart. The only healthy competition is the one you have with your old self. That will help you appreciate your journey and make you realize how far you have gone. 

2) YOU FEEL UNFORTUNATE 

I trained myself to see every circumstance and situation as a blessing (which is also a manifestation of my faith). That helped me so much especially while I was crossing some extremely tough paths. Everytime something unexpectedly bad happen to me ,I feel like it's a sign that somethings AMAZING is coming because I AM FORTUNATE. I am BLESSED and LOVED and everything happens in my FAVOR. Then I seriously do feel an excitement in my heart while expecting amazing things to happen. I prepare for it and that's exactly what eventually ALWAYS happen-the worst moments of my life are always followed with a beautiful testemonies later on. 

3) YOU COMPLAIN

Let me tell you what is a complaint: a CONFESSION. You use such a powerful tool  (YOUR MOUTH) to confess things you don't want. You claim them. And you begin to own them. No matter what is happening to you,stop only focusing on what makes you feel bad. You still have life millions are praying for every single day. Every complaint that comes out of your mouth brings u step closer to where you don't want to be. It have never done any good. Ever. You have a power to speak your future into existence. Be mindful !

4) YOU ARE NOT GRATEFUL 

If you only knew power of gratitude you would be grateful every single moment of your life. Grateful heart is truly a magnet for miracles,I can guarantee you that. Start thanking every single day for all these things you take for granted every day just because one of two things are not going your way. Appreciate whatever you have : your health,incomes,family,friends,food,home - even if it's not perfect. More you are grateful for it ,better it will get. I promise. 

5) YOU CANNOT FEEL GOOD WHEN OTHERS PROSPER 

When other people's success disturbs you that means you did not settle for your own. You feel like your very own successful story is far away from you and that is why others being there already makes you feel anxious. When you don't want to see or help others win,you only try to make yourself feel comfortable in your own situation. We also tend to DISCREDIT others when they do something really big ("she got it only because......" /"Its easy for them because...."/"If my dad was as rich as his I would also..."). 

No . This way you would not move any forward.Instead,why wouldn't you feel MOTIVATED? INSPIRED? If they could do it,that means it's possible! You can as well learn something new. Now that's some serious driving force! 

6) YOU DON'T WORK ON YOURSELF 

Number 5 ofter comes hand to hand with this bad habit. We tend to make ourselves feel comfortable with being uncomfortable in our own skin. Work hard on upgrading yourself. Invest in yourself.Whatever makes you feel bad can be changed ! There is nothing you can't  correct with some work and dedication. But,for sure,its easier to get lazy. Then we get intimidated when we see others work on themselves. When they work on their skills,body,education,personal features. When they want to "slay" in every possible way .It bothers us and then we become evil and mean. WHY?It makes us feel ashamed of our laziness and we start feeling like a failure and in order to protect ourselves we comment and think negativley. We force ourselves not to see beauty in the world around us and we can not wait to see others fall. This whole mental state is super toxic and it can not coexist with happiness and a peace of mind. Nothing feels better then loving youself. Do not forget,Love requiers ACTIONS and that means you will also have to work on your body,soul and mind. And that love,work and dedication to your own self is a master key to a happy life. It will set you free to know you gave maximum into building your beautiful self.

7) YOU TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONAL 
Life must feel like a horror movie when you act and live like the world around you is against you. Then you look for an evil intention in everything ,even in the most naive coincidenecs,gestures or comments you meet. You trust no one and everyone is always ploting against you and people always think and talk bad about you and based on things you do. HUH ?!REALLY ?
Well more you believe in it ,Life will give you more situations to match your beliefes.
BUT! The truth is ,whatever other people do has nothing to do with you. Their opinion about you and your life has much more to do with themselves then with you.
They as well  fight their own battles and we are all different :what you find offending might not offent them and what you find wrong might be very ok in their own wolrd. And it's all good. Stop overthinking. I see everyone as a fellow human being and that brings me genuie love and understanding for people even when they keep on sending me the wrong kind of energy. That does not mean you must kill youself to be loved,liked and approved by others or that you have to build friendship with every one.Nah. But with this kind of attitude no one will be able to make you feel bad with their own personal actions you can not control. Maya Angelou once said "When you know better ,you do better". Some simply do not know any better. Forgive anyways.

8) YOU DO NOT TRAT YOUSELF WITH LOVE AND FORGIVNESS
Being harsh to your own self will always keep you in the same old spot. Treat yourself with love and kindness as you would treat people you love and care about. Stop blaming yourself ,stop with self pity,and stop living in past. You are not your mistakes and there is nothing to be ashamed of. WEALL  DID EMBARASSING THINGS AT SOME POINT AND SO WHAT? No matter what,we all deserve a fresh start and a good  life. So,to get over this matter,embrace your past experiences and be thankful for it ,it molded you into this amazing person you are today and it taught you so much wisdom.