Love = Pain?

You noticed how people talk so much about "love"? No phenomenon was ever discussed more then love.We use this word so easily,we hear it every day,here,there,but can I ask u something?How many of you really know deep and complex meaning of it?Can you define me love?
Some use love as a weapon of manipulation and emotional blackmail acting like love obligate us to behave certain way or to do/not do certain things.
People would try to control you,own you,lock you down and tight you up and make u give up on your life,dreams and destiny ,force you to always prove this or that in the name of "love".They be telling you that love comes with pain,drama,tears and sleepless nights and that jealousy is a proof we care.
Took me so much time,maturity,experience and wisdom to finally understand "love" and to learn how to make a difference between love and infatuation,habit,comfort etc.
Love is totally effortless,easy going,smooth. Love is freedom. That,if you honestly love person you will never try to keep him away from his personal destiny or life goals but you will be the one bringing him closer to his purpose.A strength,support,adviser,motivation. Not a police control.
Love is a teacher. You pour up wisdom,knowledge,energy,courage and power into each other,you upgrade each other. You make each other better. You should never forget that you two are the team,never enemies that are secretly  going tru each other's phone looking for evidences of betrayal.Why would u always expect d worst ?Learn how to give your trust and STOP bringing bad experiences from past into new chapters of your life as an extra luggage.U have been misunderstood,hurt or betrayed before,but we all were!Stop using it as an excuse for your bitterness or desperation and finally let go of it!Life is amazing and there is ONLY ONE person in this whole wide universe  that is meant for you,so no wander it didn't work out with others.But before everything,until that right one steps into your life, u have a homework to do -learn how to passionately,honestly ,deeply love - yourself first.That's the only way you can beat demons inside of you and get ready to receive and give love - in the real meaning of that word.