Monday, 14 September 2015

When does she needs you the most?

I used to be free like a bird. My nature is wild,stubborn and spontaneous. You could hardly find me at the same spot twice.I am extremely outgoing person,I feel like I am suffocating if I stay indoors for too long. I was here and there. Happened to me that I left my house with an idea of going for a drink and I ended up in another country. That spontaneous. Well,we are all different and what gives our being a purpose is that unique nature we poses. This is mine.
But then - boom! 
You become a mom.
Literally over night your life changes totally and completely. I can't lie,it's the most beautiful feeling ever and having a chance to feel such an unconditional,pure love is a purpose of our existence. 
But with type of person I am,changing a lifestyle wasn't easy at all!I got to understand that,doesn't matter how supportive or carrying your partner is,the fact is his life is not going to change as close as your own and I constantly have feeling like I am being owned!
 I love my son more than anything in the world,but its very hard for me to adapt,most of all to get used to limited movements . I have been thought depression,frustration and at some point I felt so helpless and bitter.
Sometimes I have feeling like there is nobody to understand me. I was so disappointed when I realized that people expect you to adapt instantly like its not a big deal  on the fact that you are not living life for yourself anymore and even though sacrifices we all (women) make is natural and necessary, people around us need to understand that it could be painful and frustrating process. If you dare to complain you are already labeled as selfish wicked witch.
Role of a mother turns woman in the strongest being on planet earth,and at the same time creates the most vulnerable creature ever. 
At this point of our lives there can never be enough of Love,Attention,Appreciation   and Understanding. We are starving for it,and its all natural. You are not alone.
So fellas...... Listen up...
There is no time for excuses. Don't take her sacrifices for granted! It won't be easy all the time,women can be difficult (I knowww) ,but if there is a time when your woman is going to needs you,it's definitely that part of her life.
Be there. One kiss,strong hug,little surprise and words of love and appreciation (regularly,don't be stingy with your love!lol) can remove so much pain,don't you know? 

8 comments:

  1. Yea, she needs love. She needs someone to tell her it's alright lol

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  2. You just wrote my life. So glad to know I am normal when i feel like that. I mean, I love my little man more than anything in the world but my life has crazily changed.I battled depression for a while after giving birth and it took me forcefully going out on weekends before the traditional yoruba 41 indoors before I started feeling better. I was almost resentful of my husband that would sleep all night without having to wake up and feed the baby, resentful when he would go out and I couldn't....It was just crazy. bottled it all up so it wouldn't appear I was complaining till I felt I waas gonna burst. I just felt like a slave. It is much better now but I still can't just pick up and go like before, I am still tied to the house.
    You now go out finally and everyone has an opinion. "Ahan, why didn't you use a cap for him?" "Don't you think he would have been more comfortable without the shoes on?" "Isn't he still too little to come to the mall?"Blah, blah.... Whatever mahn, NOYB anyways, lol
    I wouldn't trade what I have for anything in the whole world but mehn, I totally feel you. Solidarity sister, hugs

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    1. Wow is dat how one feels wen marriage and children comes... God help me cos m not used to staying indoors.. how did you deal with it without sounding like a nagging person.

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    2. Wow is dat how one feels wen marriage and children comes... God help me cos m not used to staying indoors.. how did you deal with it without sounding like a nagging person.

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  3. Sonia I love your blog cos its so enlightening and educative and also unique... thumbs up

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  4. Sonia I love your blog cos its so enlightening and educative and also unique... thumbs up

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  5. Sonia I know my dear. It changes u completely. For me with my situation as a single mother, I came to a point I thought to not have any other kid in future. But when u try to tell people they start to call u selfish and other names.

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  6. Sonia I know my dear. It changes u completely. For me with my situation as a single mother, I came to a point I thought to not have any other kid in future. But when u try to tell people they start to call u selfish and other names.

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